Emotional Self-Care | Barbara Alexander

Today I was reminded again of the utmost importance of a well balanced self-care ritual.

Self: A person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.

Care: The provision of what is necessary for the health, welfare, maintenance, and protection of someone or something.

In this instance, I am referencing the part of self-care that is focused on your emotional well-being. Just think about this for a moment… What do you do to find inner stability and balance?

Here is how the typical day unfolds. If you are like most people, you wake up and within seconds your mind begins to race with all the things that need to get done that day. Sound familiar? Have you ever caught yourself reaching for the cell phone to check Facebook, messages or even email before you get out of bed?

Some of us think we already have a daily self-care routine. We exercise, try to eat right, cut back on sitting for too long… these things are for the body but what about your emotional self care? Is your mind just running amuck during your exercise and better eating habits?

What about a daily routine that supports your emotional experience of life?

In other words, are you using emotional intelligence and setting yourself up for success no matter what comes your way?

An emotional self-care routine helps you to ground and stabilize your personal energy. Science has proven that the state of our mind has an immense effect on our health and wellbeing, yet so few people know how to work the muscles that build emotional intelligence.

The most powerful way I have found to do this is though focusing each day on something that brings the joy of appreciation to your life.

By taking just 15 minutes each day to focus on aligning with your joy and well-being you are actively opening the lines of communication between you and the Divine.

One of the things I noticed when I began paying attention to creating a life that inspired my soul instead of living in reaction to everything around me, was that I had unknowingly created some very unsupportive habits. My self-imposed pressure upon waking in the morning was to quickly review everything that I had to get done that day. In writing this, I can hear one of my overwhelmed clients who said, “But I am only ONE girl!”

Have you ever felt that way?

One of the key things I noted was the limiting belief that we are in this all alone. Many times we try to do EVERYTHING ourselves, we figure it out, organize it and make it happen. But what if there was something far greater that we could be tapping into.

“Ahhh, Grasshopper…” We can choose to do it all on our own – or we take steps to align with a Divine support system and ask for help.

Some of us just get so busy trying to figure out how to fix a situation that we forget that we can ask for help.

Let’s get back to your emotionally intelligent self-care. Imagine that you have a savings account made up of past thoughts of appreciation and joy. These good emotions, over time, fortify your strength of well being and in times of need, when life gets too hectic or emotionally unbalanced, your well being account comes into play. It’s pretty amazing when you can feel it for yourself and things just seem to work out easier!

But I have one more point that we often forget in our times of imbalance and stress. I always remember to ask for help.

Most of us know what it feels like to ask the Divine for help in difficult situations but how about including that in your daily routine? What if you asked each morning that in every situation you encounter today, the Divine feel free to help support you and work through you in all that you do or don’t get done?

There are infinite possibilities awaiting us if we allow ourselves to open and simply ask for help for ourselves and for those we care about.

But here is the caveat: after you have asked, you must trust, have faith, believe… and then let go of any attachment to the specific outcome. After all, between you and the Divine, who has the greater vision???

Are you willing to do that?


Go ahead, take a deep breath, and embrace and expand your own daily self-care. Take 15 minutes each day, BEFORE you think of all that you have to get done. Take the time to feel genuine appreciation for something, anything will work. (sunshine, your pet, air that you breathe…) Try it for 30 days and I promise you that you will feel the difference all the way to your Soul.

BTW, I’ve created a simple but powerful tool especially for those times when you feel frustrated because you can’t seem to find your true north. It’s a FREE toolkit to decode your inner wisdom so you can get the message from your heart and soul.